How to Fall Truly, Madly, and Deeply In Love with Yourself
We fall in love with people, places, things, and even art. There’s no incorrect way to love but, when you fall in love with yourself, you gain a deep affection, awareness, and appreciation of your worth and potential as an individual. Falling in love with yourself is learning to accept yourself for who you are.
We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself. – Mae West
So many dreamed of falling in love at a young age, and there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s nothing wrong with loving, and it surely does not make you selfish, to dream of loving someone, and to be loved in return. However, it’s also significant that we must not get wind up in the thought of loving someone that we forget to love ourselves, first and foremost.
When you love yourself, you will reap more love in return. Why? Because you cannot give what you do not have. You need to cultivate love within you, and it will exude so much encouragement, joy, and tenacity that you’ll live a passionate life.
So, do not see yourself as someone plain because someone out there sees you differently. Spend time with yourself, know yourself, every bit of you. Learn to appreciate and acknowledge yourself the same way you show appreciation and affection to your loved ones.
There’s a lot of attention given to romantic love that some would consider finding the right person to make them whole. Again, someone else can’t fill the void that is YOU. Only you can make you whole.
When you fall in love with yourself, it influences everything around you. It is not arrogant, nor vain, and never the narcissistic way, but rather it is the type of love that you cherish and maintains with deep self-respect.
Embracing yourself as a whole, your flaws, your quirks, your birthmarks, and your freckles, because they make you who you are, your unique self. So, try to give some time and attention to the most influential person in your life, you.
How does one fall in love with oneself? Here are 5 ways to fall truly, madly, and deeply in love with yourself:
1. Surrender
To effectively fall in love with yourself, you need to abandon the desire to be someone else. Accepting yourself for who you are and not the person you always wish you could be is the first step to self-love.
Do not covet other people’s traits because you are your unique individual. No one can be like you! Fall in love with your imperfections, I know sometimes it seems unfair but, falling in love with yourself is a journey you have to go through. There are no shortcuts.
2. Work on your self-trust
To fully love yourself is to know that you can trust yourself before someone else. Let yourself be that first person you can rely on when difficult situations arise and always trust your judgment.
There’s no better feeling than knowing that you have your back. So, stop selling yourself short because falling in love with yourself is betting on yourself that you can follow through what you promised yourself.
3. Falling in love with yourself means to Self-Discovery
Discover yourself through journaling. It will help you to listen more to your inner thoughts, so, stop, and listen more to what you have to say. Journaling is the secret to self-discovery because it allows you to have a glimpse of your consciousness.
Your journal is a tool that reveals all your dreams, fears, worries, wishes, and thoughts that you never thought existed. It is a tool for you to get to know yourself better, how beautifully complicated you are, and that you are uniquely beautiful just as you are.
4. Re-envision your flaws
Love your flaws because they make you whole, and without it, you won’t be the unique person that you are. Do not think or consider your flaws as your weakness but learn to admire them and make them your strength.
Try to pick a feature that you think is a flaw or a weakness and look at it at a different angle, from a different perspective, through a different lens, the one that amplifies positivity, and you’ll see yourself differently.
- People might think you’re an odd person because you are shy or usually quiet, and that might make you think that’s a weakness or a flaw, but the best listeners are always the quiet ones. Let your flaws be a diamond glittering in the sun!
5. Have fun
In everything that you do, do not forget to have fun! Try to build joyful habits and always do things that you enjoy and love. Take the time to enjoy life because life is what we make it. We may be here now and gone tomorrow, so don’t take things for granted and do not live to regret all the things you fail to do.
Play on your favorite music and dance, or sing your lungs out, read a good book, travel, splurge a little, treat yourself because you deserve it. It’s crucial to give yourself a chance to get out of your head and be spontaneous. Life is short, live it!
Falling in love with yourself means indulging in some serious self-care. However, falling in love with yourself has a much deeper meaning, you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. You’ll be more attuned to your needs and how to meet them, and you’ll learn how to acknowledge your self-worth and value each passing day.
Falling in love with yourself doesn’t mean spending your time alone all the time, it’s about discovering the determination and confidence inside to love every single piece of you. So, live your best life by falling truly, madly, and deeply in love with yourself.
P.S. Be the person you wouldn’t want to switch places with anyone ever! You are special, you are unique! So, go and start loving yourself unconditionally!
48 Comments
sdecosmo87
Self-love is so important. Thank you for sharing this.
Mae Loureto
Yes, it is! Thanks for dropping by! đ
fluxingwell
Your posts are always so encouraging. Thank you for the affirmation and the tips. I journal, but itâs usually just a quick few lines. I need to be more introspective. Thanks for the post.
Mae Loureto
Thank you so much! Journaling has helped me a lot!
Olivia Kaye
I love this article! I certainly agree with this: âFalling in love with yourself is learning to accept yourself for who you are.â
Self-love is doing something that takes us towards our purpose in life. It took me ages before I finally learn to love myself unconditionally. But itâs worth the journey! Thanks for sharing this wonderful post. đ
Olivia | Living the Sunshine Life
Mae Loureto
I’m glad you finally had a breakthrough and started loving yourself more. đĽ°
Krysten Quiles
I adore this so much, you have to love yourself and take care of yourself.
Brianna LaPrell
I love this post!! Self-love is crucial to living a happy life. I have been reminding myself lately, God loves me just the way I am because he placed me on this earth this way. Therefore, I must love myself too and once I do that, I have the ability to love others the way I love myself and love God.
Mae Loureto
That’s very true! Love yourself the way God loves you. đ Unconditionally!
Summer
I love this post, I recently turned 40 and I’ve noticed that the last couple of years I’ve kind of naturally moved towards a yearning to love myself. I wish I had done so years ago! Thank you so much for this great advice!
Mae Loureto
It’s never too late. But I’m glad you finally did!
Audrey
Such an inspiring post! We all need to love ourselves more
Mae Loureto
Thank you so much!
Kathy Kenny Ngo
Its really hard to fall in love with yourself esp when we’re trained to prioritize others over ourselves.
Mae Loureto
That’s true! But, one cannot give what they don’t have for themselves. Let it be a reminder that, you first then you can magnify it to others.
Bennett Flaherty
This is such a wonderful post that I wish my younger self would have seen.
Mae Loureto
Thank you! It’s never too late! đ
Mosaics Lab
This is so beautiful, wow!!! “surrender” stood out for me and I can’t agree more, it is the starting point, to surrender yourself to the process.
Kileen
This post was so helpful and so insightful! Thank you so much for sharing I needed this today!
Kileen
cute & little
Bella
This is such a wonderful post, self love is so important. I have spent a long time working on myself and I always but my well being first!!
Ellis
I needed to read this right now, thank you! Itâs so important to love and be kind to yourself
Amy
Thanks for this awesome post! It’s especially something super helpful right now!
Marie
This is something that I still struggle so much with on a daily basis. I feel like being less than perfect means I am not enough. But I know better. I love each one of your points and will work with them this week!
Hannah - Vision Defines
Love this article! People always think self-love is luxury thing but actually it’s necessity! After all, the way we love ourselves is also teaching others how to love us!
Thanks for this article!
Hannah - Vision Defines
Thanks for reminding me back the importance of self-love! After all, we have to love ourselves before we want to love others. Self love is not easy, but I will keep practicing :’)
jenbradleyllc
As always, I love the positivity that you share! Iâve been thinking about our tendency to fixate on one physical flaw. -which causes us to overlook all of the other good things about ourselves physically. I love that you mention choosing to see our flaws in a positive light!
momsshoutout
Yes, self love first, so we can know how to love others.
Cancer Survivor Reflections-Beyond The Clouds
All i have to say wow , excellent blog !
tweenselmom
Self-love is indeed important to become more confident and happy, thank you for sharing these tips with us!
Ana De-Jesus
I liked what you said about the concept of surrrender meaning to stop your desire to be someone else. When we learn to feel and be comfortable in our own skin, that is when we can truly fall madly and deeply in love with ourselves.
Mimi
It was definitely a journey for me but I was able to fall in love with myself, took 23 years but I did it
Diana
You know thatâs why they always say put your own mask on first! You canât save anyone else until you save yourself first!
World In Eyes
wow this blog post is definitely very motivating and helpful for everyone..glad you shared this valuable information with us..great work though..
Hannah
Great article and very good on timing with all of us being at home and having more time to self reflect!
Tisha
I have always struggled with self-love. This is such a great reminder to get back to loving myself.
Heidi
These are all great tips! Thank you for sharing!
catherine santiago jose
As a person who is always prioritizing others from the past years I am now learning to love and to prioritize myself right and I am sure these tips of yours will help a lot to achieve that.
norma
Amazing info. Loving yourself is super important for sure!
rachel
YES YES YES to all of this!! Falling in love with yourself is so important
Amy Senter
Self-confidence and empowerment are such strong motivators to make a difference in your life. Love!
sharinglifesmoments
You’re absolutely correct that loving ourselves is quite possibly the best person we can love to start with. By loving ourselves, we have the ability to love others completely as well. That’s also one of my favorite books you are holding in your hands.
Lesa
Amazing post. A lot of us doesn’t understand how to love ourselves. Great tips!
Carletta Shannon
I love this post so much. I feel like this line “Let your flaws be a diamond glittering in the sun!” could be a good affirmation for me to use when I am feeling like I am deficient. Self-love is the ultimate goal in my life and this post is so supportive of this. Thank you for sharing.
Ewa
Great article, I total agree with everything and try to practice self-love.
Monidipa
I really needed a post like this. I need to learn to fall back in love!
Elmer Oelschlaeger
I’d like to thank you for the efforts you have put in writing this blog. I really hope to check out the same high-grade content by you in the future as well. In fact, your creative writing abilities has encouraged me to get my very own website now đ
Michal B.L.
Too many people neglect themselves and the relationship with themselves. Theyâre too busy caring for others and maintaining relationships with all the people around them, that they forget that they need to do the same for their self relationship. That they need to love themselves and constantly work on it just as they do with others, if not more.
Swen
This is a very good tip especially to those new to the blogosphere.
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A must read post!