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“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”. – Buddha

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Dating yourself will teach you to appreciate and savor your alone time. It allows you to be independent and happy with or without a partner. Alone time doesn’t mean a lonely time, but it is the time to get reacquainted with yourself; to get to know yourself better, to enjoy your own company, to treat yourself because being intimate with yourself is extraordinarily exceptional. 

Give yourself a break. A break from hopping from one relationship to the next, you don’t need to be with someone to feel complete because the missing piece you have been searching for is YOU. 

So, instead of dating the wrong person, date yourself not because no one else wants to but because you need to! It will help you understand who you are, get to know your thoughts, and get in touch with your intuition.

Do you know that dating yourself is imperative because how can you love someone if you can’t love yourself? And it is a chance for you to do all the things that you love without time constraint! Solo dates can be so much fun and relaxing, and it is the best thing you can do for yourself because you will learn not to depend on others for happiness. 

Dating yourself is investing time on the journey of truly doing what you love and what brings you joy. It strengthens your bond to yourself; happiness is indeed an inside job! Solitude helps you to discover who you are and allows you to look within, therefore creating a healthy relationship with the most influential person in your life, YOU.

So, dig in a little deeper and take yourself out on a date. Be with yourself, show yourself love, and get to know the person who has your best interest at heart. 

Have you ever wonder how to date yourself? 

Here are great tips to kickstart your journey into the heart of self-love, dating yourself.

Get to know yourself

Just like in any relationship, you need to get to know the person to be able to learn something more deeply; your goals, values, beliefs, likes, dislikes, and passion. However, try to be more curious when dating yourself because this will reveal your deepest feelings and thoughts, so pay attention. Make this an opportunity to reconnect with yourself and everything that made you who you are, and you will be amazed by the new things you can discover, knowing yourself inside out.

Respect yourself

In any relationship, one of the foundations is respect, and for it to work, you need to show a mutual level of respect. So, learn how to respect yourself, speak kindly to yourself, listen to your emotions, and know that you don’t need other people’s approval. Never slack on self-care, treat yourself with kindness and care, and do not let anyone walk all over you or speak negatively about you.

Tidy up your space

Take care of the space you live in because it will allow you to experience and encounter your true self. You will be stunned by how it can help transform how you feel after organizing and tidying up some clutter. You feel lighter, calmer, in the flow, and loving your space.

Getaway

Exploring the world on a solo adventure can help change your life. A solo getaway is beneficial for your relationship with yourself because you won’t be able to rely on anyone else but you. It is your time to relax, treat yourself, and to navigate your place in the world. Traveling has the power to change you, how you view yourself, and the world around you. Pure magic! 

Spend time in nature

And if traveling is not possible, then get out and spend time in nature. Take yourself out for a walk or a hike because it will help you clear your mind and put your thoughts into perspective. Spending time in nature has an extraordinary impact on your well-being; it puts you in touch with who you are and will always boost your mood. The colorful sky, the greenery, fresh air, lush leaves, and the ocean breeze; it is so soothing for your mind, body, and soul.

Dress your best

Just like on any other dates you go to, you show up and dress up. I still believe in “looking good and feeling good” So, put a little or more effort and wear your best outfit, do your hair, and spray a little perfume. It is remarkable how looking good can boost your confidence and automatically make you feel so much better about yourself. Self-care will always be the best care you can do for you.

Kiss yourself goodnight

Okay, this is not just sealing the date with a kiss like on any other date. Kissing yourself goodnight is establishing a nightly routine to focus more on self-love. Take some time before going to bed that focuses solely on you, something that will soothe you after a full day of activities (work or play); a good cup of tea, journaling, listening to music, or reading a book are some of my favorite downtimes. There’s no better feeling than going to bed at night and feeling everything is falling into place.

Happiness doesn’t have to depend on anyone nor anything; all you have to do is give the level of commitment to loving yourself, knowing yourself better, believing in yourself, and reminding yourself of how amazing you are.

So, whether if you are in a relationship with someone else or not, always date yourself. Find time to be with yourself and go all in; above and beyond. Dating yourself might be the best remedy you can give yourself in this chaotic world! 

P.S. Give yourself the love, affection, and loyalty because you deserve this lifelong relationship.

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“Think for yourself. Trust your own intuition. Another’s mind isn’t walking your journey, you are.” – Scottie Waves

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Intuition is a beautiful thing; it’s a knowingness that something needs attention or believing that something is off. Every person has intuition, but most fail to listen when it is saying something gently within. 

We always look outside of ourselves for answers when we have a serious decision to make, our family, friends, or whomever we are comfortable asking guidance with, yet we often ignore to seek the voice within; our intuition. 

Tip: Listen to your intuition before making a decision.

The subconscious mind has a way to communicate with the conscious mind, and it’s your secret power, your hidden genius, that will allow you to move forward with the right knowledge and in the right direction. 

You know the feeling. And know that feeling is REAL. Trust your vibes because it will never leave you astray.

So, let’s tap into your intuition, because the sharper it is, the happier you’ll be. 

Here are simple ways to tap into your intuition and to let it flourish and bloom:

1. Recognize it when it speaks

Your intuition is soft, subtle, and doesn’t scream, and you must be able to listen and recognize it when it speaks to you. It communicates and connects to you in different ways; feelings, ideas, thoughts, and words. However, it can also whisper in a physical sense; discomfort in the gut or chest, goosebumps, headaches, muscular tension, the feeling of relief, or sour taste in the mouth. 

Don’t mistake ego for intuition because the ego has urgency, throwing and flipping your thoughts around your head a million times. There’s an extraordinary sense of peace with intuition, even if it is something you don’t want to hear; a reasonable voice that will never criticize you but rather guide you, your inner wisdom, a feeling of euphoria. 

Tip: When you know deep in your heart and soul that it is true, then believe it is. 

2. Feel more and think less

Let your inner feelings be your guide, sometimes we don’t need to think about things, but we need to feel more about it. Don’t slip away because of your chattering mind thinking yourself in circles, hammering away like a crazy person. 

Get out of your head and get into your heart and notice how it makes you feel. Do not let your fearful mind rule you but rather let your heart’s wisdom speak through feelings. Trust your intuition.

Tip: Feel all of it, feel without holding back, and don’t overthink it.

3. Don’t ignore your dreams.

Dreams are meaningful, and it is our subconscious chance to step in and communicate with us. When you learn how to pay attention to your dreams, it can provide valuable information that you can’t access when you are awake, and it makes space for your subconscious mind to send signals while you are at rest. 

Your dreams can depict essential parts of your emotions and can give you insights into different areas of your life. 

Tip: Create a dream journal and record your dreams when you wake up. 

4. Learn to be silent and still.

Solitude turns down the noise of the world and allows you to tap into your intuition. It permits you to notice what your intuition is telling you, the signs, warnings, and encouragement. Intuition comes from deep within your heart and soul, so be mindful and focus on your thoughts and feelings. 

Get in touch with your intuition and be open to what comes to you, feel, and hear it. Learn how to focus on your own experiences in the present moment and see the situation from a different perspective. 

Tip: Connect the mind, body, spirit, and always look inside to find the truth.

5. Spend time in nature.

Spending time in nature can be spiritual healing, away from distractions and elements that can drown your intuition out. Being in the natural world allows you to connect and heighten your intuition because it centers and grounds one’s energy. 

Tip: Frolic in nature and be connected with the universe. It’s magical!

When you learn how to tap into your intuition, you will be impeccably in harmony with your authentic life, your truthful path. So, let your internal compass guide you, but it is vital to have a balance of both your rationality and intuitive self to make better decisions, your best decisions.

Your intuition always has your best interest at heart, and when you listen to it, you will live a happier and healthier life. 

P.S. Let your heart and soul guide you wherever you are.

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“Respond to every call that excites your spirit.” – Rumi

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Intentional living is to live a purposeful life, the life you truly want. To live a life with intention, making mindful choices, ensuring your decisions that what you do each day will empower you to focus on what’s essential and genuine to you.  

Life is hard, and I think it is sorely harder than it should be. 

Have you found yourself in a place where life isn’t what you wanted, or you don’t like who you have become, or you end your day every day wondering if it was all worth it? 

Then it’s time for some change, re-evaluation, and to learn how to make better decisions by understanding your values and beliefs; and to start living your life in-line with what’s authentic to you.

To live a life that’s true to you is undoubtedly the greatest gift you can give yourself. 

Living with intention will take you from where you are now and where you want your life to be, helping you to value life in the simplest form, a soulful journey, the life you truly desire. Can you imagine how it would be to be your most authentic self? 

I know, sometimes, it is often easier said than done, but when your intentions are in its purest form, so as your life, success, and relationships. 

What does it mean to live a life that’s true to you?

Evaluate your life.

Life can throw a couple of curveballs with some unexpected sideway turns; re-evaluating your life is the first step from all the baby steps you need to take towards change. What is it that you want to change? Gain a profound understanding of the things you have control over, shifting your approach, and trying a different way to deal with situations. 

Know and decide what you want.

Know your values, principles, beliefs, goals, priorities, and figure out what you truly need. What makes you tick? Why do you get out of bed every morning? What is it that makes you feel most alive? If you happen to know the answers, then it is time to start living in alignment with what truly matters to you. Do not sacrifice your dreams and time for other people, and put yourself first. Take the time and think about what you need the most and the kind of legacy you want to leave behind. A purposeful life is not a perfect life; it is learning to let go of the things that don’t serve you anymore. 

Do something that brings you joy.

A joyful life is the best life we all hope to achieve. It is the simplest form of living with intention every day, and it adds considerable value to your life. Be intentional by making yourself a priority by doing something that brings you joy by reading a good book, watching the sunrise, or the sunset, a tea ritual. A few minutes every day is all it takes to be in a joyful state of mind and change how you feel about life. Always practice self-care.

Don’t waste time.

Be intentional with your time, and spend it wisely. But don’t stretch yourself too thin, and take things slowly but take actions as you go. Being mindful and intentional with your time can help stop the rush that we regularly live in and instead to consciously do things with a purpose that gives fulfillment into our lives.

Feel all the feels.

Connect to all your feels, allow yourself to feel all the emotions, the feeling of intention. Remember that feeling is healing; it can transpire a dynamic understanding of how you are doing, physically, mentally, and yes, emotionally. Consider that every feeling has a message, and it is the path to your inner wisdom. Whether it is happy or sad, allow yourself to feel it all, beauty and madness! 

When you learn to be intentional and to live a life that’s true to you, it’s a chance to understand true happiness. We may need a push to make a change, so ask yourself; what I’m doing and why I am doing it. 

Focus on the things that bring meaning to life and learn to let go of everything that distracts you from living your best life.

Be intentional in all that you do, because you aspire, you dream, you love, you care, you want to do more, and most importantly, because you live. 

P.S. Keep living the good life. Live an extraordinary life!

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“I hope I can be the autumn leaf, who looked at the sky and lived. And when it was time to leave, gracefully it knew life was a gift.” – Dodinsky

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Fresh and chilly air, colder weather, and shorter days, the aroma of pumpkin spice, fall is finally here. As the leaves start falling, fall has a lot to love and offer. 

As we rush towards the end of the year, Autumn is the perfect time for reflection, gratitude, and an invitation to turn inward. 

The changing season is a favorable circumstance to infuse self-care habits, to reset and keep our spirit up, and to replenish and keep your balance. 

Seasonal self-care, why not! Seasonal self-care activities can support the needed array that will help you tap more into your different feelings, energies, and interests. 

Stress is a natural part of life, but we can always reduce what’s been building up by caring for ourselves, mind, body, and soul. 

Read here to find out why practicing self-care is crucial

Here are your 11 amazing self-care rituals this Fall:

1. Treat yourself with new clothes.

Sweater weather is here! Treat yourself with some Fall staples to keep you warm and cozy all season long. 

Check out my fave this season by Christy Dawn

2. Get a new pair of shoes.

Indulge in a good pair of boots or sneakers this Autumn. I know, you can’t run out of reasons to buy shoes! It’s a women’s guilty pleasure. 

3. Go for a walk or hike.

This season’s crisp air is a perfect time to chase the fall foliage and jump in the pile of leaves. Get your fill of connection this stunning Autumn season.

4. Re-read your favorite book or read a fall-inspired book.

Get yourself comfortable and cozy-up with some tea or coffee and spoil yourself with a great book while keeping your brain healthy.

5. Write a happy list.

In your journal, keep a space for your happy list. It is a great source to keep you in check with what brings you joy. 

6. Make a meal out of the Autumn harvest.

Autumn is the perfect time to get more veggies into your diet. Make some comfort food like slow-cooked stew or soup because it is hearty and healthy.

7. Go stargazing.

Step outside and gaze at the stars. It helps clear your thoughts and fosters inspiration and imagination while keeping a deep bonding with yourself. 

8. Take a weekend trip or go for a drive.

Fall always seems to be the perfect time to hop on a spontaneous trip or drive. The road helps you grasp the unexpected, improve your outlook, revives your faith in the world, and a reboot to give your mind, body, and soul a much-needed break.

9. Binge-watch some good old movies.

Stay indoors and cozy up with some good old movies like: When Harry met Sally or Sleepy Hollow

10. Do some online window shopping.

With the holidays coming up, it is the perfect time to search for some Christmas gift ideas for your friends and family.

11. Bake. 

Express your creativity through baking. Whip up some old fashioned apple pie or pumpkin pie. Yum! Some cooks or bakes to express their love for others. 

The key to personal growth is self-care done right. Don’t let anybody talk you down as being selfish or self-indulgent because regaining balance back into your life matters. 

Always build a good habit by starting small, don’t overwhelm yourself by doing them all because every little thing you do for yourself matters. 

P.S. Enjoy Autumn’s beautiful and colorful scenery and fall in love with this season! 

What is your favorite self-care ritual this season? 

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Don’t let anyone tell you that you have to be a certain way. Be unique. Be what you feel. – Melissa Etheridge

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What makes us genuinely exceptional is how we spend our time, understanding our thoughts and energy, and how we acknowledge and respond to our daily encounters with people and circumstances. Your ability to evolve as a person and cultivate how extraordinary and unique you are is such a wonderful gift.

Each one of us is one of a kind, a puzzle consisting of pieces of personality, emotions, life experiences, intelligence, and how we view the world differently. 

Our distinctive elements make us unique in our own way, while some may try to blend in with the crowd, and others stand-out in another way, but they remain their unique individuality.

Regardless of one’s path in life, your character to build and experience life, your journey will somehow leave its mark on the world. 

What makes you unique? What will people remember about you? 

Personality

Your personality makes you unique, and it is something that shapes you as a person from the moment you were born through to this day. It is what other people see and notice when they connect with you, your attitude, humor, thoughts, beliefs, character, and behavior. Your personality, traits, and charm are uniquely your own.

Experiences

Nobody has the same experiences in life. Yes, not one person! Everyone’s past, present, and future life events are a considerable influence on shaping one’s uniqueness. Each of our experiences helps us determine how we interact with the world, and all through your lifetime, your experience is beneficial because you can learn to identify patterns and know how to react appropriately. 

Attitude

Your attitude directs how you grasp life and how you interact with the people around you. Your thoughts, beliefs, influence, and self-talk can help shape your mindset. Is your habitual attitude negative or positive? Because both negative and positive attitudes are contagious, thus affecting the people around you. Craft it in a way that won’t hinder you from what you can accomplish in life. 

Perception

Your glimpse at life is not going to match up with anyone else. No one has lived your days and experience life in the same way that you have. Our perception is uniquely our own, and some may have the same thing, but for the most part, it will always vary slightly differently than others. How you think and feel is your unique perception of the world. 

Genetics

We are all different genetically. Heredity and environment help shape us, and it is clear that no one is alike. We may have features, characteristics that we inherited from our parents that equally makes us unique. Embrace it with open arms!

Habits

How we spend our time regularly differs. Our daily routine is the things we frequently do to help establish our unique aspects. 

Goals

The goals we choose and set will determine a significant part of our uniqueness because we all have different desires in life. Your goals will somehow guide what areas of your life you need to invest your time and energy to achieve what you want. 

Passion

There are so many things to be passionate about, and it gives you a reason to keep learning and to have new experiences in life. Your dedication can provide you the direction to your goal and allows you to have magnificent experiences in life. A life with passion is living an extraordinary life and let you leave your unique mark on the world. 

Intuition

Your intuition is a beautiful uniqueness that comes through naturally, do not resist it. It is a mixture of your feelings, experiences, wisdom, and optimistic soul. 

We are all unique; we may have something in common, but also slightly different. Your uniqueness is a strength that you need to celebrate because there’s only one you, and no one else in this world is like you. 

Remember, sameness is so overrated! 

I’m an introvert in an extroverted world, and I am okay with it. It didn’t break me, because I know I’m different, I’m unique. It is a strength that I embrace wholeheartedly. So, do not shy away from who you are and be yourself. The world will adjust! 

Your willingness to be yourself and to be comfortable in your own skin is indeed a unique trait. As soon as you start embracing everything that makes you different, then you’ll come full circle, and you will have complete control of your life and happiness. 

P.S. Don’t be afraid to be different. Open your heart and mind because you have so much value to add to the world.

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“It’s not happiness that brings us gratitude. It’s gratitude that brings us happiness.” – Anonymous

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Gratitude is the most extraordinary tool that can transform your life, boost your happiness, love, and prosperity. Gratitude is a compelling emotion that can lead to a more peaceful and content life. 

There are numerous benefits that you can take in when you start to practice a regular gratitude journaling. It will encourage you to shift your mindset and outlook and inspires you to find the good in each situation. 

Unfortunately, pain, anger, sadness, anxiety, and suffering can sometimes overwhelm us, and it’s difficult to see what’s going right in our life. However, people who practice gratitude are mostly cheerful, peaceful, and happy because they always see the brighter side during the darkest times. 

Being grateful is a way for people to acknowledge what they already have instead of always hoping for something more, and it helps you refocus on what you have and not what you lack. 

Your willingness to show your appreciation and to return kindness is a step to finding true happiness. 

The incredible benefits of a gratitude journal:

• Helps you focus on what matters
• It increases positivity
• Reduces stress levels
• Acquire a new perspective on life
• Improves self-esteem
• Become more self-aware
• It makes you happier

So, are you ready to step up and start journaling your way through gratitude to happiness? 

Here are some easy steps to create a gratitude journal ritual:

Start today

You may have a lot on your plate but, there’s no day like today. Don’t complicate it, and today is perfect. Just start! 

Choose journal with utmost care

The easiest step to begin your gratitude journaling is choosing your journal. Pick a visually appealing journal, something that excites and prompts you to pick it up and start jotting. Make it fun as much as possible. But here’s something you need to consider, do you want to journal digitally or physically? It all depends on your preference. 

Initiate a ritual

Rituals carry out a call to action for our mind, body, and spirit by our muscle memory, and it helps build habits. So, choose a ritual that you can repeat whenever you journal. 

Eg. Drinking a cup of tea while journaling works for me because it is soothing, calming, and very stimulating. 

Focus on the gratitude journal benefits

You must understand why you are doing something because it will be effortless to stick to a new habit. Focus on all the benefits gratitude journaling has to offer, and you will be able to recognize what genuinely makes you the happiest version of yourself. 

Express your gratitude

Showing or expressing your gratitude is a very personal thing to do and is all up to you. There are no rules, and it’s for your eyes only unless you want to share it with someone you can trust. Write about what makes you happy or anything that interests you. Appreciate and feel the gratitude as you jot down one single good occurrence in your life. 

The key here is to write “why” you are grateful. 

Commit and Reflect

You have to commit to writing in a gratitude journal, whether before you start your day or before you retire at night. Why so? Because starting your day with positivity will boost your mood and happiness, and so as ending your day with gratitude will help you be at peace with yourself. It’s essential when you start a new habit to check-in with yourself from time to time. Review what you wrote down and ask yourself if you are feeling any different and if your happiness has improved. 

The immense benefit of gratitude is happiness, which most of us are searching to accomplish. Gratitude journaling will only take a few minutes of your time, and a simple habit of pondering on what you are grateful for, big or small, can bring you the most joy. 

Gratitude can give us hope and works its magic by taking away negative emotions. So, try gratitude journaling because it will surely help in improving your wellbeing.

P.S. What are you grateful for today?

We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself. – Mae West

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We fall in love with people, places, things, and even art. There’s no incorrect way to love but, when you fall in love with yourself, you gain a deep affection, awareness, and appreciation of your worth and potential as an individual. 

Falling in love with yourself is learning to accept yourself for who you are. 

So many dreamed of falling in love at a young age, and there’s nothing wrong with that. There’s nothing wrong with loving, and it surely does not make you selfish, to dream of loving someone, and to be loved in return. However, it’s also significant that we must not get wind up in the thought of loving someone that we forget to love ourselves, first and foremost.

When you love yourself, you will reap more love in return. Why? Because you cannot give what you do not have. You need to cultivate love within you, and it will exude so much encouragement, joy, and tenacity that you’ll live a passionate life.

So, do not see yourself as someone plain because someone out there sees you differently. Spend time with yourself, know yourself, every bit of you. Learn to appreciate and acknowledge yourself the same way you show appreciation and affection to your loved ones. 

There’s a lot of attention given to romantic love that some would consider finding the right person to make them whole. Again, someone else can’t fill the void that is YOU. Only you can make you whole. 

When you fall in love with yourself, it influences everything around you. It is not arrogant, nor vain, and never the narcissistic way, but rather it is the type of love that you cherish and maintains with deep self-respect. 

Embracing yourself as a whole, your flaws, your quirks, your birthmarks, and your freckles, because they make you who you are, your unique self. So, try to give some time and attention to the most influential person in your life, you. 

How does one fall in love with oneself? Here are 5 ways to fall truly, madly, and deeply in love with yourself:

1. Surrender

To effectively fall in love with yourself, you need to abandon the desire to be someone else. Accepting yourself for who you are and not the person you always wish you could be is the first step to self-love. 

Do not covet other people’s traits because you are your unique individual. No one can be like you! Fall in love with your imperfections, I know sometimes it seems unfair but, falling in love with yourself is a journey you have to go through. There are no shortcuts.

2. Work on your self-trust

To fully love yourself is to know that you can trust yourself before someone else. Let yourself be that first person you can rely on when difficult situations arise and always trust your judgment. 

There’s no better feeling than knowing that you have your back. So, stop selling yourself short because falling in love with yourself is betting on yourself that you can follow through what you promised yourself. 

3. Discover yourself

Discover yourself through journaling. It will help you to listen more to your inner thoughts, so, stop, and listen more to what you have to say. Journaling is the secret to self-discovery because it allows you to have a glimpse of your consciousness. 

Your journal is a tool that reveals all your dreams, fears, worries, wishes, and thoughts that you never thought existed. It is a tool for you to get to know yourself better, how beautifully complicated you are, and that you are uniquely beautiful just as you are.

4. Re-envision your flaws

Love your flaws because they make you whole, and without it, you won’t be the unique person that you are. Do not think or consider your flaws as your weakness but learn to admire them and make them your strength. 
Try to pick a feature that you think is a flaw or a weakness and look at it at a different angle, from a different perspective, through a different lens, the one that amplifies positivity, and you’ll see yourself differently.

• People might think you’re an odd person because you are shy or usually quiet, and that might make you think that’s a weakness or a flaw, but the best listeners are always the quiet ones. Let your flaws be a diamond glittering in the sun!

5. Have fun

In everything that you do, do not forget to have fun! Try to build joyful habits and always do things that you enjoy and love. Take the time to enjoy life because life is what we make it. We may be here now and gone tomorrow, so don’t take things for granted and do not live to regret all the things you fail to do. 
Play on your favorite music and dance, or sing your lungs out, read a good book, travel, splurge a little, treat yourself because you deserve it. It’s crucial to give yourself a chance to get out of your head and be spontaneous. Life is short, live it!

Falling in love with yourself means indulging in some serious self-care. However, falling in love with yourself has a much deeper meaning, you’ll feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. You’ll be more attuned to your needs and how to meet them, and you’ll learn how to acknowledge your self-worth and value each passing day. 

Falling in love with yourself doesn’t mean spending your time alone all the time, it’s about discovering the determination and confidence inside to love every single piece of you. So, live your best life by falling truly, madly, and deeply in love with yourself.

P.S. Be the person you wouldn’t want to switch places with anyone ever! You are special, you are unique! So, go and start loving yourself unconditionally!

“Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You have to really love yourself to get anything done in this world. ” – Lucille Ball

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Self-care is a favorite topic these days, but it’s always unsatisfactorily explained all the time. It may be vague to you on how you’re going to add it to your life, or maybe you are not yet convinced why you need to practice it regularly. 

FACT: You Cannot look after others if you can’t look after yourself. 

Self-care is a term that characterizes everything you do intentionally for your emotional, mental, and physical wellbeing. Practicing self-care doesn’t mean you are choosing yourself over someone. It only means that you are prioritizing yourself, your needs, so you’ll be able to help your loved ones better.

How many times over the last week, or over the last month (not to mention the last year) have you felt worn out or crabby or lacked the attention span you needed to give something? If you’re like most people — and this year, during the pandemic, perhaps all people — then it’s true you’ve probably had all of those feelings, multiple times a week if not every day. That’s OK, but those feelings are also indicators that you might be neglecting something that’s important to your overall well-being: self-care.
When you say self-care to many people, they get the wrong idea. They think that you’re referring to meditation or time spent selfishly. What you really mean, though, is the time that you spend making sure you can give what you need to give to others by saying no, by eating well, by sleeping enough. How can you do more of that so you can be your best all the time? This graphic explains it.

What is self care? And how to find solutions that work for youInfographic by Quill

Benefits of Self-Care:

In a nutshell, self-care is about being kind to yourself. You have to be intentional of your wellbeing or, you can never attain true self-care. 

Self-care teaches you to have a healthy and happy relationship with yourself so that you can spread the love, happiness, and good feelings to others. Some may misinterpret self-care as being selfish, but taking care of yourself is never selfish! Do not let others dictate what you so dearly need in your life to get through tough times.

When you try and pay enough attention to yourself, your wellbeing, you’re renewing yourself so that you can be the best version of you. Thus, the people around you can gain from your refreshed and revived spirit and allows them to do the same.

Why is it important? 

There are many stressors in our daily life. Our energy gets depleted so often, and we need to take action to save ourselves from losing ourselves. However, we mustn’t get tempted to use harmful coping mechanisms like over-eating, drugs, and alcohol. Remember that not everything that feels good is self-care. Some things can give us temporary relief during challenging times, but self-destructiveness is not self-care nor self-love. The only way to be at peace with yourself is by embracing and taking the time to focus on what is foremost in your life.

It is crucial to acknowledge your limits: 

If you feel:

• restless
• anxious
• lack of concentration
• unhappy
• overwhelmed
• exhausted
• irritable

These are only a few of the things that we encounter in our everyday life, and no matter how we shake it off, it will always affect us. Stress is a slow and quiet killer! Do not let it spoil the life you deserve. 

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Live Your Best Life:

Your overall health is crucial to be able to function at your full capacity. Self-care makes you more productive, efficient, vigorous, and full of life. Practicing self-care is a personal act, an acknowledgment that you have come in terms with yourself. It may always be different from person to person, so, look for the things that make you feel alive. When you practice self-care, commit to doing something for yourself, and do not back out. It’s a step to living your best life! 

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So, do not undermine the power of self-care and how you can incorporate it into your daily life. It may sound so simple to others and intricate to some, and others may have already quit even before they have tried. How will you know if it’s worth it when you didn’t give it a shot? Do not ignore the things that can make you feel better.

The trick to sticking to your self-care activities is to find something that you genuinely enjoy. Practice self-care that aligns well with your life and your values and implement small habits every day. A great relationship with your mind, body, and soul is the key to longevity. 

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” ― Harvey Fierstein

People with good self-esteem know how to acknowledge that they’re not perfect, and recognize that they too have faults. That in every flaw, it makes them who they are, and they totally accept this with open arms, mind, and heart. Regardless of all the imperfection, they still feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their capabilities, abilities, talents, strengths, and weaknesses.

Most people get confused about what self-esteem means and think that it’s just all about your looks, how popular you are, or how many friends you have. Some people believe that to have good self-esteem, you need to accomplish something massive in life, the greatest misconception of it all. 

However, self-esteem simply means acknowledging yourself for who you are, what you do, your faults, shortcomings, and all the little tidbits that make you, you.

The low self-esteem phase beats you up tremendously. It’s a cycle of feeling bad about oneself, stressing obsessively about a mistake, allowing yourself to believe that you are simply not good enough. The cycle repeats unless you break it! Although they often thought of low self-esteem to be a character trait such as humility, it’s absolutely untrue! 

Low self-esteem has damaging effects on everything, including yourself, your career, and your relationships with the people around you. It can leave you insecure, uninspired, unmotivated, and uncertain. 

What are the symptoms of low self-esteem?

1. Negative self-perception
2. Self-neglect
3. Lack of boundaries
4. Critical/Abusive internal dialogue
5. Difficulty making your own choices
6. You don’t trust your own opinion
7. Feeling guilty for your everyday action
8. Worry what others might think of you
9. Follow along with what others say, wearing, or going
10. Difficulty speaking up your own needs, feelings, and wants
11. Anxiety 

So, don’t drag yourself down and beat yourself up. Find a way to boost your self-esteem and build your confidence to be the best you can be. 

Here are some top tips to help you improve your self-esteem:

1.Accept failure as it is, it’s part of growth.

Failure is part of life. When you fail, it only means you have the chance to learn and grow. Elevate your perspective and shift your thinking that failure is an opportunity to learn more, to know more. 

2. Find a new hobby or learn a new skill.

Learning something new helps cultivate your skills while gaining new experiences. There’s a sense of delight when we take on a new hobby, especially the ones that correspond with your talents and interests. It enhances your capabilities and broadens your mind, therefore, adds to your self-worth.

3. Restore your integrity.

Know what you believe in, your core values, and make sure you don’t compromise it no matter what. Ensure that you live by your character, it is essential for your mental growth.

4. Stop comparing yourself to others. Always, do you!

Comparing yourself to others is lethal to your self-esteem, so don’t! Do not base your life by how others live theirs, it’s destructive to your self-worth. Living in comparison will never match-up! Why? Because we keep focusing on what we lack, what we don’t have, what we can’t do, and the list just goes on. So, refrain from falling into this pit of despair and change the way you view yourself. Instead, aim your attention on being a better you and focus on your goals.

5. Accept who you are.

Each of us is different in our own way, we are all unique, we have different talents, traits, and capabilities. First, to be able to love yourself, you must accept yourself. Embrace who you are, define your strengths and accept your weakness. Be in your element and share it with the world because you are extraordinary, we all are! 

6. Draw a line in the sand. 

Having boundaries isn’t just saying no to an invitation or an offer, it’s more than that. Establishing how you want to be treated and how people should communicate with you is essential to your self-worth. By drawing the line in a relationship, is a decision that serves you regardless of what others think. Sure, we all have over-assertive family members or friends that can weigh heavily on our mental state whenever we are around them. Don’t let them make you feel inferior, let them know where your lines are drawn.

7. Let negative people go.

The unparalleled way to find and improve your self-esteem is to surround yourself with confident, positive, and supportive people who appreciate, respect, and value you. If there are people in your life who like to put you down and have a negative aura around you, be gentle with yourself, and let them go. They don’t deserve a spot in your life. 

8. Surround yourself with a supportive squad.

Let’s lift each other up because we’ve all been there before, so don’t be a downer! Each one of us has experienced an awful day or two, so be the glare to someone’s melancholy. Boost each other up and fix each other’s crowns.

9. Nobody’s perfect.

Perfectionism is a destructive habit. So, don’t be! Do not be crippled from taking action just because you are afraid that you can’t match the standard. This is a sure-fire downturn to your self-esteem! Always remember that perfection is an unrealistic goal because reality can clash with your expectations. However, go all out to be the best version of yourself and don’t use this excuse to slack off, there’s something called good enough. Rather than never getting things done! 

10. Develop an inner dialogue and be kind to yourself.

This may seem crazy, but no, it’s not! We all have an inner critic deep within us, and we need to learn how to handle and take over the voice of our own inner critic. Inner talk is substantial because nobody knows you better than you, and it’s also good to remind yourself of your strengths and values. 

When you finally like yourself more, when you are at peace with who you are, then you become less destitute, and your life becomes lighter and calmer. Don’t fall into the trap of self-sabotaging your self-esteem and self-confidence, motivate yourself to not succumb to uncertainty. 

Everything takes time, it’s a process, and sure it won’t happen overnight but, these things will surely help you get started and keep moving forward. When you boost your self-esteem and improve your self-confidence, you can handle tough times ahead. You’ll be happier. 

Awareness of your vibrations and its levels will help raise your positive vibration level and can help manifest your positivity, light, happiness, and love with everyone around you. 

I am not an expert when it comes to a thorough explanation about vibration and the law of attraction. It’s an intuitive feeling which makes you connect with your small inner voice rather than the screaming outer voice. Stay afloat and tune in to your higher emotions of compassion and empathy. Connect and believe in your intuition!

Have you ever tried when someone walks into a room, and you suddenly feel eerie? You know you need to keep your distance while there are people that draw you closer to them. 

Yes, vibes!

Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results. – Willie Nelson

The law of attraction. Whatever you offer out into the world will return back to you (good or bad). You are responsible for the life you make and can manifest change to how you direct your thoughts and emotions. So, use your thoughts wisely. 

If you are feeling stuck, bored, and uninspired, chances are your vibrations are low. When you feel happier, lighter, peaceful, and satisfied with your life, you are vibrating at a higher level. 

The Law of Attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you’re going to attract more of into your life. – Jack Canfield

Let’s raise your vibrations higher in 4 simple ways:

1. Thank Your Lucky Stars Every Day

Being grateful is one of the quickest ways to raise your vibration. Make a list of the many things you are thankful for rather than what you don’t have. When your day gets more into fear and anger, shift your focus, and make gratitude a habit. Gratitude will change your outlook in life and will help you appreciate the little things. 

Gratitude brings your whole mind into closer harmony with the creative energies of the universe. – Wallace Wattles

2. Manifest Love

Love is one of the highest forms of vibration you can have. Your vibration will soon soar the moment you welcome love in your heart. Love has the power to lift you from your limitations. Love can pull you out of your deepest gully. Love heals. Let love be the fuel of your passion and do great things. Then you will feel growth, happiness, and peace within you, vibrate higher in love.

Wherever you go, go with all your heart. – Confucius

3. Fuel Your Body Right

By eating nutrient-dense, fresh, colorful, and vibrant food, your body will absorb all these things and will supercharge your frequency. Local or organic fruits and vegetables are your best options. You will feel alive, full of life, and in tune with everyone around you. High-vibration food makes a person’s vibration higher and makes you glow. So, fuel your body right by eating nutritious food.

Let medicine be thy food and food thy medicine / Nature itself is the best physician. – Hippocrates

4. Surround yourself with beauty

Create positive, beautiful, calming energy in your home. Everything in your home needs to reflect beauty, warmth, and excitement. Use colors, lighting, and meaningful items that will inspire you. Create a harmonious home and reduce clutter. Your environment has a big impact on how you feel on the inside.

Edit your life frequently and ruthlessly. It’s your masterpiece after all. – Nathan W. Morris

So, learn how to observe your thoughts, instead of simply attaching emotions to them, and learn to let them go. Sure, there are things in life we can’t control. It’s part of life! But always stay in check with your energy, do not dwell on things you can’t control. The choices you make makes you, your thoughts, your attitude, and your intentions are all part of your energy. 

I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet. – Mahatma Gandhi

Release yourself of all the stories you’ve been telling yourself and let go of the victim role. Be aware of your environment, who you listen to, what you eat, and all the little things that matter. Raise your vibration to live a life with more joy, clarity, peace, serenity, health, and loving life.

Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions. – Albert Einstein

Allow yourself to flow in a state where you feel your best! 

How do you raise your vibration? Do something that gives you joy, always.